In dreams, however, unlike in waking life, our ego-directedconscious thinking mind is turned off. This means that in dreams themanifestation of our thoughts comes quicker and more intensified than in wakingreality. The time delay between when we have the thought and when it’sactualized in our present reality is decreased, as is the amount of attentionrequired from you to make it so.

Think of your dreams then as the sneak preview of the movieof your life.

• If you don’t like something that appears oroccurs in your dreams, recognize first that youcreated it, then do what you need to create a shift in your thoughts thatreplaces those unwanted elements with wanted ones
• If you do like your dreams just as they are - ifthey feel good to you - then take that as a signal to keep doing what you’redoing, thinking what you’re thinking, and prepare to have that good-feelingdream manifest itself in your waking life.

Your dreams are you Coming Attractions. If you like thepreview, stay right where you are. If you don’t like it, however, then get upand change theaters; get a ticket to a different movie instead.

The best time recall your dreams isin the morning, immediately upon waking, while still lying down in bed. As soonas you get up, thoughts of the day, of yesterday, of tomorrow start racing into fill up your brain. You may suddenly recall a tidbit of a dream during theday, but if you’re trying to harness the messages you’re getting from yourdreams, the best way to do that is to try to recall them as soon as you awaken.

And don’t worry if you can’t remember all of it; youprobably can’t. Dreams are like that. Just trust that what you do recall iswhat resonates strongest for you (whether positively or negatively) andtherefore that aspect of your consciousness that seeks the most attention atthis moment.

If you can’t recall any elements of your dreams, see if youcan’t at least tap in to how your dreams felt. If you get a good sense aboutyour dreams, then you can feel confident that you are already well in line withyour Source of fulfillment. If you get a bad feeling when you try to rememberyour dreams of the previous night, you can take that as a sign that some ofyour dominating thoughts (whatever they are) are out of alignment with yourdesires. Once you realize that, it probably won’t be hard to identify thosebad-feeling thoughts; they’ve probably been dominating your waking life too.

Now, some people may resist placing such conscious attentionon their dreaming awareness; “Sleep is the only rest I get. I don’t want tomake that work too.” Rectifying thisdilemma is easy. Just instruct yourself before you go to bed each night to restwell and awaken refreshed and rejuvenated If you stayenergetically committed to resting well and awakening refreshed andrejuvenated, then nothing that occurs while you’re asleep will negate that. Youcan have an active and exciting dream life and still wake up the next dayfeeling like you’ve gotten a great night’s rest.

In order to discover the purpose of humanity in thisTime-Space reality, let’s first examine a bit of the purpose of the Universeitself. This Universe of ours is infinitely rich, diverse, and multifarious;and this is in no way any random accident. It is this way - full of contrast,of variety and opposing ideas - for a very important reason.

It is this way so that we - the conscious extensions of thatfundamental Life Force, the creative source of All That Is - can activelyparticipate in it’s never-ending creative expansion. The Universe is everexpanding, ever-evolving into more and more of what it already is: an infinitefield of abundance. We are the directors of that expansion.

Everything that has ever been has led to this point Now; andeveryone who ever was has led to this point of consciousness You. From here on,everything that is ever to become and everyone who is ever to be springs out ofYou in this moment Now. The Universe’s expansion and yours are intertwined;your personal evolution, the evolution of humanity, and that of the Universeare interdependent.

And how exactly does this happen? How, then, does thisinterdependent relationship work? So glad you asked.

The Universe is built on contrast and variety so that eachof us can develop preferences, which in turn become desires. We need toexperience, or at least be aware of, an idea and its opposite, a possibilityand its antithesis, in order to decide for ourselves which one we like andwhich one we don’t.

Then, if we’re living our purpose, we focus on the ideas,the possibilities we like and in doing so summon those ideas and possibilitiesinto the reality of life in this Time-Space Universe.

By summoning those conditions and experiences we desire(and, by unfortunate contrast, unwittingly summoning those we don’t) we arehelping the Universe to expand (like breathing air into a balloon). And what’smore, we are ever contributing to the “shape” of that expansion.

The Universe is evolving, and we are the mind that directsthe course of its evolution. But evolution is not necessarily towards someutopian ideal of perfection, some paradise on Earth: not by definition.Evolving towards a constant state of peaceful and joyous enlightenment is not aforegone conclusion.

We must choose that kind of fulfillment, with every breath,in order to make it so. And even then, there is no end, for the very nature ofevolution is that it is always happening and never-ending. The Universe willnever stop expanding, whether it’s being filled with beautiful things or not.

Likewise, there is no end, no destination for any of us. Wetoo are always evolving, always expanding. And as the desires we summon makethemselves a part of our present awareness of reality, our vantage point on ourlives and reality changes, our quality of discernment develops, thus changingour perceptions of what we want and imbuing us with new wants, thus infusingnew desires “out” into the Universe, thus effecting the Universe’s continuedexpansion and, in turn, our continued fulfillment.

And so on, and so on.

In a very real way your fantasies are your realities - good ones andbad ones, for better and worse. Whatyou imagine is what will be. If you build it, they will come. Fortunately, it’s never too late to imagine somethingnew, even if presently embroiled in circumstances previously imagined.

The process of visualization is simple, and it doesn’trequire any esoteric knowledge or complicated accoutrements. If you can find aquiet place to do it, all the better; if you can’t don’t worry about it. Do iton the bus, if you want. If you can arrange to be uninterrupted while you doit, great; if not, it isn’t a problem. You can do it with your eyes closed oropen. You can do it sitting, standing, laying down, or out jogging.

All you do is create a visual picture of what you want (NOT what you don’t want). Create avisual picture of the condition, circumstance, or situation as you desire it tobe (NOT how it currently, undesirably, is). For best results, once you have aclear mental picture of the ideal you’re creating, be sure to place yourself inthe image (if you’re not already). Interact with the elements of this idealreality you’re visualization into existence.

And that brings us to a trick for boosting the impact ofyour efforts: Visualization is made exponentially more effective when coupledwith positive emotions. That is to say, once you’ve begun visualizing the wayyou want something to be - whether it’s your physical condition or your lifesituations - next allow yourself to start feeling the emotions associated withthese desired states.

Feel what it’s like to have what you want as though youalready had it now - perfect health, that relationship you’ve always wanted,that new car or Tahitian holiday, that better job, the return of something lostor missing, the resolution of a squabble - whatever it is, feel the emotionsyou know you’ll have when that possibility, whatever it is, becomes yourreality.

The visualization is the way to make your request for aparticular reality to unfold; the positive emotions you feel about that realityare the way you get yourself in alignment with it occurring for you, the wayyou allow what you’ve visualized into your present reality.

It’s a three-step process:

1. Visualize your desire, and be sure to includeyourself in it
2. Feel how it feels to have that desired realityhere and now
3. Repeat as desired.

Abraham-Hicks, co-authors of “Ask And It Is Given”, andfacilitators of the “Art of Allowing” workshop affirm that if you can focus ona single visual image for 17 seconds straight, you’ve effectively put yourrequest out into the Universe - like giving your lunch order to the waitress atthe diner. They further affirm that all it takes is 68 seconds of uninterruptedfocus on your desire to get yourself into vibrational alignment with allowingit to happen.

The people we attract to ourselves in life match upvibrationally with some energy we’re projecting. Attracting the right kinds ofmatches into your life then requires first and foremost acceptingresponsibility for the people you do attract. And takingresponsibility for the kinds of people who show up in your life entails takingresponsibility for how you “show up”in your life, inside and out. Change you vibrations, change what (andwho) they attract.

Love in an energy - one we foster from within. When weaccess that energy of love from within, we project its vibrations outside ofus; in our actions and in our being, we come from a place of love. Thisinvariably attracts that same energy of love into our lives, for example in theform of other people to love who also loving us.

One of the problems people have in getting the love theywant is that so much of what people call ‘love’ isn’t love at all. Often it’s attachment: to the other person, to the relationshiplooking the way you think it should look, or even an attachment to “drama”.Other times it’s fear: fear of loss, fear of not being worthy of love, or onewe hear a lot, fear of being happy, which really just amounts to more fear ofnot being worthy of love and fear of loss.

Some sages say that people ‘crush’ love like a bird in thehand when you hold onto it too hard, and while the image may be apt we preferto say that when you cling to love you detach from it. If that sounds like aparadox, you’re catching on. Clinging to love out of attachment and feardisengages you from the love itself and grips you to your attachment and fear.As does clinging to your ideas of what love should look like when and if itever does “come”.

Love is an energy. It cannot begripped any more than you can grip light; you can only be bathed in it, or shutyourself away in the dark. But the light is there nonetheless,and right outside the door. Love flows, and to have the relationship of yourfondest desires, let the love flow through you and from within you.

Rather than focusing on fixing the problems in yourrelationship (or your utter lack of one), engage in the flow of love and watchthe problems (or lack) dissolve. Change the circumstances, situations, andconditions you find yourself in by allowing yourself to feel here and now thelove you aim to feel for the new circumstances, situations, and conditions.

The perfect relationship with another person comes fromnurturing a perfect relationship with yourself; in other words: loving yourself fullyand unconditionally as you are, and appreciating yourself fully for all thelove you have inside to give.

Yes, that means everyone, even murderers. And rapists andchild molesters too. The worst of the worst in the world right alongside thebest of the best and all of the rest of us; we are all extensions of thatSource - like fingers of a hand; it is our very essence. We are but thephysical extensions of the non-physical Source Energy of the Universe.

What then causes that feeling of separateness, thatoverwhelming sense of isolation? What causes fear, doubt, worry, and pain?What’s the source of all our problems, then? What causes evil in the world? Itis, in a word: resistance.

We, with our egos and our sense of individuality, have thegift of our own unique perspective on this Time-Space existence we call Life.It is a gift bestowed upon us at birth, our nature, our birthright, while atthe same time being the gift we have to give the Universe and All-That-Isitself (more on this in a moment).

We have the absolute freedom thought, to think what we wantabout what we perceive. Though we are all extensions of the same singularSource Energy, we each offer a unique perspective on the experience of being.And with this freedom, this gift, our birthright, comes its consequences(notice, incidentally, if you judge that word - Consequences - as positive ornegative, then ask yourself why).

Whether or not we feel our connection to the fundamentalforce of all creation, whether our life experience is of having our fondestdesires fulfilled or an unbroken string of disappointment, heartache, and pain,depends on whether we resist our inextricable oneness with All-That-Is oraccept it and embrace it and allow it to be.

Think of it this way for a moment: Our physical bodies areimmersed in air. Air is all around us and, more, it runs through every part ofour bodies. We can agree that air is an inseparable part of us. So when we holdour breath, do we make that any less so? Are we any less immersed in air, isair any less a part of physical beings just because we decided to hold ourbreath? Of course not!

All we do when we hold our breath is cut off the free flowof air in and out of our bodies. If we hold it too long, we may feel discomfort,disorientation, and even pain. If we hold it long enough, we may simply passout. And then what happens? We start breathing again.

Similarly, we can refuse to acknowledge our oneness with theSource, we can deny it, reject it, loathe it, resent it, rail against it,ignore it, and forget about it. We can do that so much for so long that weeventually experience the spiritual equivalent of total unconsciousness. Whatwe CANNOT do, however, is separate ourselves from it. We can temporarily cutoff the free flow of Source Energy that runs through us, but we can never makeit any less a fundamental part of us.

The spiritual implications of quantum mechanics was madeabundantly clear to the scientific, spiritual, and secular communities alike inGary Zukav’s groundbreaking book “The Dancing Wu Li Master”. In it, he explainsthat the Chinese term for physics is Wu Li which translates literally to “patterns of organicenergy”. He then goes on to illustrate how all that we perceive as the physicalworld and all things in it, including us, are actually these ever-dancingpatterns of energy.

Here is the scientific iteration of what ancient theologicaltomes like the Tao Te Ching and the Bhagavad Gita have been saying all along,that all matter is but the ever-shifting, ever-changing interrelationshipsbetween these nonphysical patterns of possibility. That nothing is “real” interms of its solidity and permanence. That everything is immaterial and inconstant motion.

Humanity’s gift of consciousness, then, imbues us with themeans to engage in the flow of that dance with intention: to guide and directthose energetic relationships to create those possibilities most preferable tous.

Quantum physics even finds evidence of this inexorableeffect of consciousness on the physical world in the theory that “consciousnesscauses collapse”, what’s been deemed “the spiritual interpretation”, forexplaining the mysterious waveform collapse responsible for the evolution ofquantum systems. It seemed the waveform collapse only occurred when beingobserved by a conscious energy (ie. a person).

Other theories and experiments have broached this samephenomenon from other angles, including the Schroedinger’s Cat experiment (thatthe condition of an isolated cat could not be determined without the observer’sinterference affecting the outcome) and the Uncertainty Principle (that the actof observing a phenomenon changes it). All these discoveries of quantumphysicists validate that consciousness affects outcome, mind affects matter.

Quantum theory can give us the keys to travel through deepspace and time, to teleportation and telekinesis, the manipulation of matter,and even to immortality itself. Are these “super powers” and “supernaturalphenomena” not merely different terms for the same sorts of energies we awakenwithin ourselves when we awaken to our own inextricable relationship with theSource? Is not the power to effect radical transformation on a physical levelwith our minds alone just another way of looking at the power to create our ownrealities through our connection to Spirit?

Quantum physicists like Stephen Hawking continue to strivein their effort to come up with a unified Theory of Everything (ToE), a conciseand comprehensive model for explaining and understanding everything that everwas, is , and will be. Proving the validity of the Law of Attraction on thepurely physical, scientific level is an exceptionally promising stride.

• You ask- usually without even asking as the very acting of wanting something isreceived by the all-powerful creative source as a request or, maybe more aptlyput, an order;
• Your”wish” is granted - you need to do nothing for this happen as it’s anautomatic and instantaneous result of step 1
• Youeither allow it or deny it - like a gift, you either accept it or refuseit.

The reason, then, for the appearance of so many of ourdesires NOT being granted is our own resistance to having what we asked for.

If you have ever desired something and then sometime laterstarted noticing the failure of that desire to be fulfilled, you are actuallypushing the fulfillment of that desire out of your present reality. Observing, for example, that a lack of resources for the attainmentof your desire creates that lack - not the other way around. Not only doyou perpetuate the absence or lack by observing it, but you cause it.

For that which you desire is alreadyyours, the instant you want it. But your participation in receiving itdoes not stop there. To the contrary, by fixating on a desire alreadytransmitted, a want already wanted, you draw yourself continually back to theawareness of your current state of NOT HAVING it.

You do yourself the same disservice by being unhappy aboutwhere you currently are and hinging your happiness on the arrival of yourdesire, by being impatient with the “wait” for it to come, by being jealous ofsomeone else who already has what you want.

Instead what you must do is trust that yourrequest/wish/order has been received and approved and now your only job is toprepare yourself to receive it. How is this done, exactly? Bygetting your whole being in agreement, into vibrational alignment, with theattainment of that desire.

Imagine you’ve ordered a very expensive item from animporter. Once the order is complete, all you have to do is waitfor it to arrive, right? But what if you’ve given the store the wrong shippingaddress? Or what if you’ve given the right one, but aren’t home when thedelivery is scheduled to arrive, and you haven’t made any allowances for thereceipt of that package; you haven’t asked a friend to wait at your home toaccept the package for you; you haven’t given the delivery person alternatedelivery instructions or a way to contact you. Maybe you moved, and in all thecommotion forgot the order was even coming. Or maybe you flat-out decided youchanged your mind and didn’t want it anymore, refusing the package upondelivery.

None of these instances change the fact that what you askedfor was given; they only change your ability to receive that which you askedfor. It’s the same with the total manifestation of your every desire. Tofulfill this all-too-often forgotten final step in the attainment of all thatyou desire, simply allow yourself to bask in eager anticipation of what itfeels like to know that they’ve already been granted.

Ask and it shall be given; experience the pleasure of havingthat which you’ve asked for, and ye shall receive.

In a crisis we don’t have time to think; we’re all emotionand instinct. We are totally and absolutely present. This is why we hear somany stories of people thrust into a sudden emergency achieving incrediblefeats that seem, by normal human standards, impossible. When we are trulypresent, we are in direct and unfettered contact with our core essence, thesource of all power. And when we are in this state, we can do anything.

Some people, in fact, are only ever present when in thethroes of an emergency, which explains why those people seem beset by onecrisis after another in their lives: to be present. Thankfully, it doesn’trequire a crisis to become fully present, but when those sudden tragedies andother unwanted life situations do invariably occur, the way to free yourself of your pain and suffering, and to transmute theundesirable situation into an opportunity to attract a desirable one, isthrough presence. And in a negative situation, the way to be present is tosurrender.

Now let’s pause a moment to examine that word: ’surrender’.Does it make you think of ‘giving up’? And if it does, what do you think you’regiving up. Too often we take surrender to mean giving up caring about asituation or giving up trying to make things better. But that’s not surrender.

That’s hopelessness and despair; that’s resignation,abandonment of your purpose in life: to actively participate in the joyousmanifestation of your desires. That kind of surrender cuts you off from thewell-being that is your natural state (or rather, reinforces and perpetuatesthe illusion that you’re cut off from it). That kind of surrender is just morepain and suffering.

All pain and suffering is resistance to what is. So to relieve your pain andsuffering in any given moment, surrender - or give up - your resistance to whatyou believe is causing it. You do this in two ways:

1. Accept the situation as it is - that is,acknowledge that this is the situation right now, and you can’t change thiscurrent moment; you can only change how you respond to it. And in changing howyou respond to this moment, you call to you a new and different moment more inline with this changes you’ve made to yourself in this moment.
2. Allow yourself to feel your emotions and you areinstantly taken out of your head, out of your thoughts, and into your body,into the present. When you are present to your emotions, allowing yourself tofeel them, you are not conscious of the story behind why you supposedly feel thatway; you only feel the way you do. And when you are present to your feelings,the process of their transmutation towards your natural state of peace, has already begun.

Accept and allow. From this place of surrender, of acceptingthe Now as it is, and allowingyourself to feel your feelings, you can consciously, deliberately choose thethoughts that next occupy your mind. Choose ones that feel good and, throughthe Law of Attraction, evidence to justify those good feelings will crop upeverywhere around you.

The way out is through; and the way through is in. Surrenderis not giving up; it is giving in.Accept and allow. Accept and allow.

One of the paramount skills in achieving success in whatever ways you define it is the ability to create win-win situations. That is, to identify a way for a situation to be resolved in a way that meets the needs of everyone involved, and then to choose it.

The myth at the heart of all conflict is that one party has to lose in order for the other party to win. To playground scuffles to lover’s spats to world wars, this Win/Lose mentality is at the core. And it is a total fallacy.

The nature of the universe is infinite abundance. Not only is there enough of everything for everybody; there is more than enough.

To locate the Win-Win solution to any situation, identify the needs underlying the conflict. It may be (and is probably so) that a possibility not yet considered can satisfy one or both parties’ needs just as well as the path or outcome the party has been fighting for.

The Art of the Win/Win is not to be confused with the act of compromise. Compromise implies giving up something yourself in order for another person to gain. Identifying your core needs beneath your requests and demands frees you to allow more options into your realm of possibility. Invariably an option exists that will satisfy the other person’s needs without sacrificing any of yours.

A dedication to the pursuit of Win-Win Situations is noticeable. It makes a person stand out, and in all the right ways. People pick up on it when someone shows is committed to other people’s needs as much as (though not more than) their own. People appreciate that, and they respect it.

The “end result” is that a Win/Win situation triggers a chain reaction of further Win/Wins, in contrast to Win/Lose situations which leave you back at square one with each new challenge; every victory but a doorway into yet another battle.

Since money seems to be such a common symbol of Winning, let’s look at those people we perceive as the grand Winners: the Rich. The difference between a happy rich person and an unhappy rich person (or, put another way: a rich person and a wealthy person) may be whether or not that person lived by a code of Win/Lose or one of Win/Win.

A person committed to achieving their visions of success at the expense of others suffers for it in loneliness and lovelessness. The person who raises others up along with him by his choices is the true winner.

The concept of the Win-Win situation is used regularly and to great effect in the worlds of business and politics. They can be put to equally effective use in your home, family, and relationships. They will add fuel to the achievement of your goals and desires. And they will make for a happier and more peaceful environment, outside and in.

Consider the Source, the Life Force underlying everything,as a boundless ocean. You need to nothing to remain afloat in this ocean otherthan to stop resisting, stop flailing about in fear of drowning, relax, and letthe water support you.

When we are still and free of resistance or - to frame it inthe positive - allowing, we float, the water supports us. We can then choose topause there awhile to enjoy the experience with all our senses or swim in thedirection of a different experience.

Trying to control your life is like flailing about in theocean for fear of drowning. Directing the course of your life towards thepursuit of your dreams is like swimming.

Constantly trying to control what is already under controlis like constantly focusing on survival rather than your dreams. You’re alreadysurviving; you mastered that skill years ago. You mastered it, in fact, themoment they cut the umbilical cord. Without knowing you knew how to feed yourbody oxygen by breathing in and out. And you learned to cry when you wantedsomething until you got it. As time passed, your survival skill set eventuallyexpanded to include more complex ways of communicating your needs andeventually methods for directly getting yours needs met yourself.

You are such a master of survival that you don’t even needto think about it to do it; you never have. So why have you, then? Why have youdevoted so very much of your time - the majority of it, no doubt -fretting,planning, and working so hard to get it met. It’s met!

It’s been met, and it’s not ever going to be un-met untilthe moment you die (and even then we propose that the core of you survives, butlet’s stay focused on this life in this body for now). How much longer doyou really want to spend fixating on avoiding one single moment in time (yourdeath) at the expense of all the others (your life)?

The shift in mindset is simple and all-powerful: instead of observing what is so,imagine how you want it to be, and feel what it’s like to know that it isso.

That brings us to another part of our lives over which we sooften try (with futility) to exert undue control, andthat is: our emotions. It’s a fool’s errand to try to control your emotions,not because it doesn’t work (though indeed it doesn’t) but because it iscompletely counterproductive; it’s self-sabotage, in fact, to try and controlyour emotions. Why? Becauseyour emotions play a pivotal role in the perpetual fulfillment of all yourdesires, one that runs completely counter to the very idea of control.

Your emotions are your signals of how connected you are tothe infinitely abundant wellspring of joy and fulfillment. Feeling good is asignal that you are in alignment with the steady flow of creative Life Force;feeling bad is a signal that you are not.

Trying to change your emotions, then, is like putting theproverbial cart before the horse. Feeling better won’t get you in alignmentwith the Source. Getting yourself in alignment with the Source will make youfeel better. An unpleasant feeling is no more than an invitation to rememberyour true essence as one with the Source of All That Is - always supported, always surviving, alwaysdirecting and always in control.