How to Take Control of Your Life

Posted on December 11, 2007 in Laws Of Attraction by byronb

The title of this article contains a misnomer (albeit anintentional one), and that is the word: control. For the key to taking (ortaking back) control over your life is to release control and instead directthe course of your life.

Consider the Source, the Life Force underlying everything,as a boundless ocean. You need to nothing to remain afloat in this ocean otherthan to stop resisting, stop flailing about in fear of drowning, relax, and letthe water support you.

When we are still and free of resistance or - to frame it inthe positive - allowing, we float, the water supports us. We can then choose topause there awhile to enjoy the experience with all our senses or swim in thedirection of a different experience.

Trying to control your life is like flailing about in theocean for fear of drowning. Directing the course of your life towards thepursuit of your dreams is like swimming.

Constantly trying to control what is already under controlis like constantly focusing on survival rather than your dreams. You’re alreadysurviving; you mastered that skill years ago. You mastered it, in fact, themoment they cut the umbilical cord. Without knowing you knew how to feed yourbody oxygen by breathing in and out. And you learned to cry when you wantedsomething until you got it. As time passed, your survival skill set eventuallyexpanded to include more complex ways of communicating your needs andeventually methods for directly getting yours needs met yourself.

You are such a master of survival that you don’t even needto think about it to do it; you never have. So why have you, then? Why have youdevoted so very much of your time - the majority of it, no doubt -fretting,planning, and working so hard to get it met. It’s met!

It’s been met, and it’s not ever going to be un-met untilthe moment you die (and even then we propose that the core of you survives, butlet’s stay focused on this life in this body for now). How much longer doyou really want to spend fixating on avoiding one single moment in time (yourdeath) at the expense of all the others (your life)?

The shift in mindset is simple and all-powerful: instead of observing what is so,imagine how you want it to be, and feel what it’s like to know that it isso.

That brings us to another part of our lives over which we sooften try (with futility) to exert undue control, andthat is: our emotions. It’s a fool’s errand to try to control your emotions,not because it doesn’t work (though indeed it doesn’t) but because it iscompletely counterproductive; it’s self-sabotage, in fact, to try and controlyour emotions. Why? Becauseyour emotions play a pivotal role in the perpetual fulfillment of all yourdesires, one that runs completely counter to the very idea of control.

Your emotions are your signals of how connected you are tothe infinitely abundant wellspring of joy and fulfillment. Feeling good is asignal that you are in alignment with the steady flow of creative Life Force;feeling bad is a signal that you are not.

Trying to change your emotions, then, is like putting theproverbial cart before the horse. Feeling better won’t get you in alignmentwith the Source. Getting yourself in alignment with the Source will make youfeel better. An unpleasant feeling is no more than an invitation to rememberyour true essence as one with the Source of All That Is - always supported, always surviving, alwaysdirecting and always in control.