The Perfect Relationship

Posted on December 21, 2007 in Laws Of Attraction by byronb

In this article we apply the lessons of the Law ofAttraction to partnership relationships or romantic relationships, though theinsights discussed apply to all relationships of all kinds - friends,parent/child, etc.

The people we attract to ourselves in life match upvibrationally with some energy we’re projecting. Attracting the right kinds ofmatches into your life then requires first and foremost acceptingresponsibility for the people you do attract. And takingresponsibility for the kinds of people who show up in your life entails takingresponsibility for how you “show up”in your life, inside and out. Change you vibrations, change what (andwho) they attract.

Love in an energy - one we foster from within. When weaccess that energy of love from within, we project its vibrations outside ofus; in our actions and in our being, we come from a place of love. Thisinvariably attracts that same energy of love into our lives, for example in theform of other people to love who also loving us.

One of the problems people have in getting the love theywant is that so much of what people call ‘love’ isn’t love at all. Often it’s attachment: to the other person, to the relationshiplooking the way you think it should look, or even an attachment to “drama”.Other times it’s fear: fear of loss, fear of not being worthy of love, or onewe hear a lot, fear of being happy, which really just amounts to more fear ofnot being worthy of love and fear of loss.

Some sages say that people ‘crush’ love like a bird in thehand when you hold onto it too hard, and while the image may be apt we preferto say that when you cling to love you detach from it. If that sounds like aparadox, you’re catching on. Clinging to love out of attachment and feardisengages you from the love itself and grips you to your attachment and fear.As does clinging to your ideas of what love should look like when and if itever does “come”.

Love is an energy. It cannot begripped any more than you can grip light; you can only be bathed in it, or shutyourself away in the dark. But the light is there nonetheless,and right outside the door. Love flows, and to have the relationship of yourfondest desires, let the love flow through you and from within you.

Rather than focusing on fixing the problems in yourrelationship (or your utter lack of one), engage in the flow of love and watchthe problems (or lack) dissolve. Change the circumstances, situations, andconditions you find yourself in by allowing yourself to feel here and now thelove you aim to feel for the new circumstances, situations, and conditions.

The perfect relationship with another person comes fromnurturing a perfect relationship with yourself; in other words: loving yourself fullyand unconditionally as you are, and appreciating yourself fully for all thelove you have inside to give.